As most of you will know, Heath Ledger was discovered unconscious by his housekeeper yesterday at a Manhattan flat. The police were called, but he was pronounced dead at the scene – the cause of death is yet to be determined but the NYPD is looking into the possibility of an overdose of prescription pills, which would indicate suicide.
If that was the case, it’s very sad. It doesn’t matter whether he finished The Dark Knight, or his latest film, the fact remains that if it was the case that he killed himself, it’s a tragedy and a real loss to us all. Many are incredulous that so many people can be so affected by the death of someone that actually, very few of us knew, but it’s not that hard to fathom. We connect with people through their films, their interviews, we let them into our homes – they entertain us, cheer us up, give us something to do. While it is ephemeral, we do have a connection to them and it does inspire emotion in us when they do pass, particularly under such horrific circumstances as these.
Suicide is the most selfish way to die, it’s true, but it’s also the saddest. As someone who has been touched by suicide in their life, I’ve had a long time to think about the root causes behind it. Did they really think that there was no other way out than to kill themselves? Did they feel so alone and so isolated that nobody could possibly understand or help them, and this was the only possible way that they could deal with whatever it was that was causing them such massive problems? I don’t know. After Amy died it took me a long time to come to the conclusion that we can never really understand what goes through the mind of someone on the edge of something like this – it’s a deeply personal experience that’s influenced by so many factors…it’s nearly impossible to fathom what they must have been feeling and how they must have felt so trapped that it drove them to it.
Heath Ledger’s case is an absolute tragedy, but it highlights the fact that we need to listen to each other more, to be far more supportive towards people we care about than we are. Suicide is horrible for the person who goes through with it, but it’s even worse for the people who survive it, by which I mean those who had connections, emotional attachments, who even loved those who take their lives.
The ultimate victims in this are Ledger’s family, most importantly, that poor two year old girl who will never know her father.
Very sad, very tragic. If I were a religious man my prayers would be with them, as it stands, they and others suffering the same thing have my thoughts today.
Listening to: Jose Gonzalez – In Our Nature
Currently watching: Forbidden Planet 50th Anniversary Edition
Currently reading: The Guardian